Millions of people die before they make their dreams come true.

Before they get justice.

Prove themselves.

Or even meet the love of their life.

And yet we live every day thinking that we will have that time.

We will be able to complete, finish and experience all that we came here to experience.

Unfortunately the circle is rarely complete.

Rarely full.

We rarely finish something we started.

We die in the midst of wanting more.

We die in the midst of not having.

We die in the midst of not loving.

Of not being loved.

Just writing this, I cry deep tears for all the human beings who died in the midst of going for a walk.

In the middle of the night.

At dinner.

Just before they went to college.

Just before they saw their kids graduate.

Just before they had their son. Grandson.

Just before they walked down the aisle.

Just before he said I love you.

In the midst of life.

We stop living.

And that’s why we must act now, today without even an ounce of hesitation.

The certainty of my death, grabs me more than anything else in this world.

Mortality inspires me to finish as many circles as possible.
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Today I am going to ask you for completeness.

I know I cannot stop death coming to take us in the midst of living, but I can make sure we all feel complete every day of our lives.

Today ask yourself this question.

What do I need to do to complete today?

Is it a relationship you need to complete?

Is it a painting you have started but never finished?

Is it a job application?

Is it saying I love you to someone regardless of what the response is?

Feeling complete has nothing to do with big goals and aspirations.

It has to do with the people and things that surround you.

As humans we make the mistake of setting big goals so big that we are afraid to make them happen.

And we die feeling not good enough.

As a world of big conquests, we fail to teach our humans that the steps to the top of the mountain need to be small and satisfying.

And enough.

If I had just one day, I would be staring at the people I love.

Just admiring them.

Memorizing their faces for my eternity.

I hope you do too.

With completeness,


Image courtesy of Alisa Burke.

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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  • Helen says:

    Oh Christina,

    I am crying hysterical tears reading, digesting, your words. Some of the most powerful I’ve ever read (because there’s nothing so powerful as words received at exactly the moment you need to hear them).

    Thank you. From the very very bottom of my heart.

  • tina says:

    That’s beautiful writting right there with alot of meaning! Thank u for your time.

  • Benita Ward Courtright says:

    My greatest fear is that I will die before I’ve had a chance to live.

  • Mary says:

    Thank you for this lovely piece.

    A recent article in Tricycle Daily said…”We all know that we’re going to die, but we don’t know it in our guts. If we did, we would practice as if our hair were on fire.”

  • Ursula says:

    This is interesting. I went through this a couple of years ago. I got very sick & as I got sicker & sicker, I thought, “Wait!I can’t die yet. I’m not done yet. I didn’t finish what I came here to do. Not even close.” And I fought & clawed & prayed & hoped my way back to health. And then I started to do what I felt that I hadn’t done the first half (third?) of my life. And I was able to relax. A little bit.

    Now there’s more of a feeling of “Okay, I’ve done more of what I came here to do.” Meditation helps a lot, I think.

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