How To Take Off Your Clothes And Claim Your Destiny

All of a sudden, I found myself in a place without the paralyzing fear I had been feeling. It was like oxygen in my lungs. Euphoria. Ecstasy even. Imagine life without fear. Even just imagining this, brings you to a deep breath. Yes. At first it was truly a surprising feeling but I was enjoying it. And spending my days in this place had been awesome. But as you know by now, I love to…

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The Guide To Being Outrageous Before, After And While Grieving

I have to tell you. I am getting too used to living outside the box. With the minority. From outside the mainstream. From the corner of the universe. As a matter of fact, it is kind of fun to say outrageous things. Shock your friends and family members. I am enjoying this. More than I ever thought I would. Imagine discovering that living outside the box is more fun than inside of it. Oh,…

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All the things that Mary Poppins is teaching us

I saw Mary Poppins Returns movie trailer appearing every day as I was getting ready for the release of Where Did You Go? But I never put the two together. How could have I known? How could I have foreseen such a thing? That they were not only being released at the exact same time, but that people from all over the world would write to tell me how many parallels they have been finding between…

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How to Wake Up your Dragon in 2019

You have to have a strong sense of self. A clear picture of who you are, what you stand for. What it is you believe in. You have to be tree-like, like the trees with huge trunks, that can’t be destroyed in bad weather. You must claim your place in the world, and not be shaken or fallen. Did you know that the world’s oldest tree is in Sweden and it is nearly 10,000 years old? The oldest tree has…

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Be rebellious today

The holiday season is not for the faint of heart. Not for the bereaved. Not for the heartbroken. Not for those who lost the people they celebrated with. Millions of people spend the holiday season sobbing. Millions spend it making rebellious new traditions. Millions spend it with new friends. New loves. New beginnings. But even those, those who boldly go forward they will find a moment, to sob.…

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The 10 surprising things I learned about LIFE from visiting the AFTERLIFE

When my husband died in 2006, I discovered that the distance between life and death was very short. It became very clear that we are here one moment and gone the next. Death is immediate. I may even go as far as to say that death is not inside our linear time. If you blink you would miss death. It comes and it takes us outside of this reality, and moves us into a place outside of a linear…

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You are Here to Love Many Times

I know you feel alone. I know you ask the question will I ever love again? Our lives after loss can almost feel foreign. We got stripped away from all that made us who we are. And we go home every night alone. The lights are off. The house unchanged. You can’t escape what happened here. You travel back to the loss and forward to what can no longer be. A lonely time traveler. But it is not…

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Have a Meaningful Thanksgiving

I find daily life that is made of anything but meaning, pointless. Books that deal with drama, uninteresting. Gatherings that have superficial conversations, waste of time. And at this juncture I always add, especially for those of us who have endured loss. The time we spend in the nothingness of routine can actually put us in depression. Maybe one of the reasons the holiday season is hard for…

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Beyond Here

Forgive me for lately, I have been seeking the unseekable. The unseen. The very hard to find. Seeking the answers to the bigger questions. Sometimes I get mad with the world. How dare we not ask these questions. How dare we close our eyes and go to sleep without wanting to know. Why are we made this way? Who made us? Where were we before we were here? And where the heck are we going…

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Writing from the Roller Coaster

Maybe I will stay inside the ups and downs. The highs and lows. After all, the roller coaster makes you a good writer. Did you know? It makes you brave. It makes your hair look crazy too. :) Your heart beats as if there are two hearts inside of you. You don’t have time for any kind of small talk. And you hold on tight. No drama. Just lots of back and forth between low and high. Between…

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