I Hid So Well, I Didn’t Know I Was Hiding

I hide inside moments. I literally hide there. I am so afraid of change. Whenever something new is on its way to me, I hide inside time. Do you know why I created the Life Reentry® work? Because I needed it to get myself out of all the hiding I was doing. I am the master hider. The master waiting room resident. It’s not even that I am stuck but I like to hide from life, from big things,…

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What Is Your Big Decision After Loss?

There is so much loss in making big decisions. Most of them include saying goodbye to something you have done for a long time. An experience your brain is used to having. A way of life you have known. An expression of self. Making a big decision requires you to feel loss. And this is why we keep postponing them. We try to avoid more pain. Change is full of grief, did you know? One of the…

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The Good and the Bad of Life After Loss

After walking next to so many of you living life after loss, I witnessed some tough truths. Here is what I learned from you and from my own journey. You will feel lonely even when you are with others. You will question your values, beliefs and all the things your parents taught you. You will be angry longer than you will be sad. The simple routine task of taking the trash out will break your…

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We Need More Than Love

It is both simple and the most complex thing in the whole wide world. The weakest and the strongest. I am talking about how we have to be after loss. We are asked to be vulnerable and at the same time stoic to get through our day to day. Most people find their way to the duality of life after without anyone guiding them. It is a requirement to be and do both and not for a week or two, but…

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The Treasure Chest

A friend asked me the other day. Do I still feel grief when I write these letters to you. And I said yes I feel it. But not in the way most people think. I feel loss deeply. But not just for one person, experience, moment. But many. I write from this infinite place of loss every week. It is a treasure chest. A place where everything lives forever. A place where I feel ageless. Where…

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Take a Chance

“Trust me.” I heard the most faint whisper say. “It’s going to be ok. Do it.” “Do what?” I responded. “Take a chance.” the whisper said. “On yourself.” The whisper continued as if it knew my most private thoughts. As if it lived inside my mind, in between the struggle. The doubts. The worry. “But how would I know if it’s the right thing?” I said and shook my head. “You won’t.” And I waited…

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The Visit

It is said that grief lasts forever. In a way it does. It lives inside of you for decades. Silenced by life, awakened by memories. The mind has the ability to bring someone back to life and make them timeless. Immortal. And so it is for me and my girls in our visit to Denmark this week, his home country. And so it is, we brought him back to life, visiting his best friends, his parents,…

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Ridiculously Afraid

I didn’t know that I had to become courageous... forever... after loss. I mistakenly believed that being courageous was only necessary for a couple of years. Maybe three. But every decision and new thought after loss demanded courage. Everything had a dose of fear. I patiently waited for that to change. I thought to myself, the uncharted had to at some point become easier to navigate. I…

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Life, Call Me By Your Name

Oh life. You give. You take. You teach. You scold. You love. You are harder than easier. Tougher than gentler. Stranger than logical. Routine is just an illusion isn’t it? There is no normal. No certain. No guarantees. Just gruesome harshness in between extraordinary beauty. Dreams amongst nightmares. Day and night. Love and loss. I know you know. You have always known. And you are here…

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What’s Your Song?

You have to be willing to break into a song while in your worst day. That’s right. Start singing while you are on the floor sobbing.  (Click to Tweet!) It’s ugly looking. It feels messy. It might even make you feel nauseous. You may feel like you are out of control. But something will happen in that moment. The breaking into a song while you are sobbing is you taking the controls back.…

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