There is a place within us that tells us we have to be Olympic swimmers to swim in the ocean.

We have to be thin to go on a date.

We have to be young to jump out of airplanes.

We have to be rich to start a business.

We have to be smart to go back to school.

And since we will never be thin enough, smart enough or young enough, we never ever get to start over.

This is the letter that you need to read over and over again.

The more perfect you are the less likely you are to succeed.

The more smart you are the less likely you are to be bold.

The thing is, I am able to write this letter to you every week because I am not anywhere near perfect.

I launched a social network because I was not smart enough to see how hard it would be.

You will never be ready. Never. Never ever.

Today will be as hard as tomorrow.

But today is the only day you can go out into the world in your imperfect way.

Yes, there will be people who will point their fingers.

Yes, there will be people who will say you are not good enough.

Yes, there will be people that will raise their eyebrows.

But if they were also swimming towards their dreams they would not have time to see your imperfect swim.

I wish I could tell you that your swim would be without the doubters, the naysayers and the haters.

There are plenty of those around your waters.

But you will also get to experience the edge.

The thrill of having a body and still being alive.

You will experience flow.

You will find out that the people who have been swimming ahead are as imperfect as you but they went in any way.

As a matter of fact, because of your grief you will be able to swim a little faster than others.

Take more chances.

Believe that you have nothing to lose and why not.

Why not take the leap?

And this is where you and I get to be the same.

Imperfect, scared but bold.

Imperfect, scared but gutsy.

Imperfect, scared but resilient.

Our swim will last years.

We have been through the impossible before this swim.

If anyone can start again, build sand castles, make their way to the edge, it is you and I.

So today, I am going to ask you to wet your feet. That’s all. Go and spend time in your ocean.

Start something small. In the most imperfect way. (Click to Tweet!)

With so many faults,


PS. Join me in the ocean of The Life Starters.

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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One Comment

  • Geino says:

    That was truly beautiful. I do feel more confident moving forward now with what I have had to live beyond. Life after life is finally becoming more genuinely exciting.

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