My life began after the loss of my husband.
Before his passing, I was living my life in a default state.
Graduate from college, get married, have kids, make friends, have play dates.
My brain was following the life that was determined by the people around me.
I am actually ashamed to even say this.
I don’t know where I was during those years.
Hypnotized by the messed up western society we all participate in.
Then, my beloved husband died and the default was destroyed along with me.
The suffering showed me how asleep the rest of the world was.
I was screaming at them and they were all like robots, still going on with their days in their hypnotic state.
Around the 5th year after his loss (yes it took 5 long years) the woman who is writing to you showed up.
I stopped silently screaming at everyone.
I stopped believing the lies we have been told about grief.
If you have gone through a terrible loss I want you to know that inside of you there is someone waiting to come out.
And the only reason this someone is not jolted into existence just yet is because our society tells us that you are going to be in suffering until you die.
Your brain is not looking for a reactivation, instead it is looking to survive.
I want to knock on your door and tell you how wrong this is.
How wrong it is for anyone to treat you as if your life is not to be celebrated anymore.
How wrong it is for people to treat you as if you will break.
And if you let this person out she/he will change your life so much that you won’t even recognize yourself.
There is one step that needs to happen before you can Re-enter.
You need to spend at least 7 days grief cleansing.
Cleansing all that you have been carrying around with you after your loss.
We cannot get to the new life without removing the invisible losses, the pain, the grief and the loneliness from your body and mind.
You need to wake up every day for at least 7 days and write your way out.
I just can’t bear to think of you stuck inside the waiting room knowing so well what’s outside waiting for you.
Please, start with a grief cleanse.
Start writing your way out. And share it with someone who can witness you, validate you and see your re-entry come to life.
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