I want every person who has lost someone they loved to be told their pain won’t destroy them. (Click to Tweet!)

I want every homeless human to be told they have a home.

I want the women and men who have been cheated on to be told it wasn’t their fault.

I want the people who are left without a job to be told they are worthy.

I want everybody who has been lied to to be told the truth.

I want the fearful to become fearless.

The betrayed to be loved deeply.

The sick to be given a cure.

The disabled to be carried.

The bereaved to be be healed.

The poor to have their bills paid and food on their table.

The wrongly blamed to know they have done nothing wrong.

The innocent who are held in prisons to be free.

The single moms to have help in the middle of the night.

The mothers who lost children to know they could not have saved them.

The bullied to be rescued.

The single men and women to know there is someone out there for them too.

The unlucky to find so much luck that they would think they are dreaming.

The lost to be found.

The missing to come home.

The soldiers to have no battlefields.

The mentally sick to have moments of peace.

And if one of the above people is you, know that you ARE MY HERO.

You are the unsung hero of the world who wakes up every day knowing that life may not change again but you still wake up trying.

I love you.




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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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  • i want a cure for cystic fibrosis, for my grandson Jayson.

  • Annette says:

    i want the loneliness to stop. I want to love and be loved again.

  • Kim Meleski says:

    I want to lose my debilitating fear of dying through Jesus Christ ❤️ I am always afraid of suffering in dying…….. It scares me beyond words. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou. Kim Meleski

    • Kim says:

      I have been with both of my parents when they each died. They suffered in life, but their suffering at the time of death was brief thanks to palliative care and hospice care. I highly recommend it and it is available almost everywhere nowadays. We can’t put a human “to sleep” like we can do for our pets. But hospice is the next best thing. Don’t waste your living time worrying about death. There’s only so much you can do. It’s going to happen to all of us but it’s not happening right now! I’ll deal with it when the time comes.

    • Lyn says:

      Kim, I know there are many people who share these same fears. I hope I can offer some support when I tell you that many years ago I had a near-death experience. I nearly died from a toxic pregnancy when I was in my early 20s. I don’t often talk about it, but it was one of the most calming, beautiful and peaceful experience I have ever had. Since then I now have no fear of dieing. From what I experienced it is a beautiful transition.

  • Caron Eyers says:

    I want my daughter to be here to tell her how much I love her and always did and do. I miss her so much x

  • Tom says:

    I want a heart filled with forgiveness for my late wife who, after going through her things, I found out, cheated on me at least twice (two different men), maybe more. I’m tired of the anger I’m carrying around.

  • Karen howser says:

    It’s been 9 months I lost my son. April 1, 2015 will be a year he’s been gone. I still can’t believe he’s gone. Having a hard time letting go. Death by suicide is so hard to get through.

  • sharon says:

    I want to move past my divorce.

    • Lyn says:

      Sharon, I have a beautiful book that I can highly recommend called Spiritual Divorce written by Debbie Ford. I provide Divorce support to help heal people who are going through divorce and during the course of my work I have read a lot of books and done much research. This book is one of the best. It helped me enormously. The transition can be very painful but also very beautiful. Getting support will also help.

  • I want this all to end I don’t want to feel like this anymore I don’t want to be alone I don’t want to feel tired all the time I want to enjoy life not feel it a chore and to enjoy being a mum

  • Debra Oster says:

    I want to be loved again & be able to find a job that will help me pay my bills & for my daughter as well.

  • Suzanne says:

    I want you to know that your positive words help. I want to feel better about myself. I want to know that I can face what is left of my life with grace and competency and allow myself to feel joy without feeling guilty. I will always miss my husband and the life we dreamed about sharing if he got well but he died and I am lonely. It has been 2 years and 9 months since he died and I miss being held, coveted and secure. It feels weird being widowed and single again in my middle age years. I want to feel better again so each day I keep trying and each day I keep loving what I still have and each day I keep transitioning. I want to feel better one day at a time.

  • Jayne says:

    I want to feel I belong and that I am wanted.

  • Erin McRaven says:

    I want to be FREE from guilt. Guilt from being the One Who Lived. Guilt for my success and my failures. Free from the guilt that keeps me immobile. Free from Guilt’s sister, FEAR.
    I want a HOME of my own, where I can finally be able to have Peace, and Freedom from the Guilt and people needing to Control me.
    I want the hungry to be fed, the homeless to have shelter, the hopeless to be helped.
    I want all the abused animals in the world to have a loving home and to never have to be hurt and alone again.
    I want for Terry and I to finally get MARRIED, after a decade of waiting for all the problems to get resolved…. which they have NOT.
    I want us to have a stable income, so that we can live out our lives in peace, and I can work on my book(s) and my painting, free from the Guilt that I am Wasting Time, when I should be scraping up MONEY so we can get OUT of this house full of angry, control freaks we are living with.
    Oh, and I want a slice of cheesecake. 🙂

  • Beautiful girl says:

    I want to Live.

  • Alison says:

    I want Peace.. After my husbands death I lost my home I lost my life I lost 2 or my 4 children to Heroin, my family is broken. I am left raising my 5 yr old grandchild alone..I want PEACE…

  • Mark says:

    Psalm 41:11-12
    11 By this I know that You favor me, because mine enemy does not triumph over me.
    12 And as for me, You uphold me in mine integrity, and set me before thy face for ever.

  • Kat says:

    I want the pain to stop.

  • hannah says:

    i want to meet my daddy and hug him alooooot tell him i love him and hanging out with him i miss him so much :'( i knw he’s in better place now
    i want that the wars all over the world stop and people stop being hateful to each other and stop being racist and start being respectful and loving
    i want people to respect all religions espicially my religion Islam
    i want happiness for you all 🙂

  • Leslie says:

    I want blessings to shower you Christina for all you do with your words and thoughts for others. You share and show a way where we see no path…Thank You

  • Teresa says:

    I want to believe that I will have a life, a home, and someone to love again.

  • Andrew Jackson Martinez Sr says:

    RIP my son Andrew. Today mark’s the third week since you’ve passed on…My heart is heavy. I will do my best to see your two daughters remember you through me. Lord open your arms and receive him…Your finally at peace
    God Bless you son…I miss you so much.

    • Tamara says:

      I would just like to offer my condolences on your loss, Andrew. Such fresh and new grief is a very sacred (if painful) place to be. May comfort, peace, healing and strength be with you and your family now and in the days ahead. <3

  • Gerry Dotoli says:

    I want everybody who has been lied to to be told the truth.

    I want the fearful to become fearless.

    The betrayed to be loved deeply.

    Those 3 lines emulate my struggle. Gerry

  • Debora says:

    I just want to believe there will be a life after my husbands death someday. I am soooo tired of faking that my life is ok when he left me nothing but memories. It will 18 months soon and I don’t rail anymore about how he left me in this mess. If you live with anything long enough it becomes a way of life….which scares me to no end.

  • Tamara says:

    I want everyone to know and feel that they are worthy of love, healing, prosperity, peace, grace, friendship and fulfilment. I want everyone to treat themselves and others as worthy, including the animals we share this world with, and the planet that gives us life. We are all worthy.

    I want to find my way out of the Waiting Room and to a life of love, healing, prosperity, peace, grace, friendship and fulfillment.

  • Kelli says:

    I want those who are abused to feel no shame, to be able to say this is NOT my fault. I did not cause this and I do not deserve this.

  • shelley Berg says:

    Yes, all of that for everyone!!! I can relate to many of those comments/life’s circumstances. I wish and pray blessings and God’s help and favor upon everyone whom finds themselves in dire straits. XO, Shelley.

  • I want everyone to find peace and not be afraid. This is such a great list, Christina. You have a huge loving heart and your posts always touch me.

  • Fay Trim says:

    I want those who are broken to feel complete again.
    I want those who are dying to not be alone and that their passing can be peaceful.
    I want caregivers to show empathy to the families left broken hearted.

  • Kathleen says:

    Dear Christina,
    I want to find deeper purpose and meaning in my life after the losses of my husband, boyfriend and father. I feel I am ready to do the work my soul was called to do. I have to focus now and be brave. I want to claim myself again, what I want does matter I tell myself. If I find love following my heart, that would be quite the blessing. Thank you for your continued support. Kathleen xo

  • Sandra says:

    Thank you for this list, this is exactly what I needed to read today. I have been struggling with being cheated on and even years later I am still dealing with it. I am angry that I have let it rob me of happiness for so many years. I want to meet someone and live a happy life but I am scared to open my heart. I don’t know how to work through it but I am trying. Thank you for your postings and emails, they are a big help.

  • kn says:

    These are beautiful words and we all wish them. Im my personal experience, when difficult or painful things happen, or if there is a down time in life, is when i get kicked the hardest.
    My brother died, we were very close and I was told oh to bad, not one hug, not one day of rest, just called low life names by those who i MISTAKENLY thought would care. If they want something from me, they sure know how to dial or say the honey sweetie bit, if I need help, so much as a word of encouragement I get told to F off……I stopped trusting every one. Believe nothing that is said . It is much easier that way. It does get lonely at times but hurts far less than a knife in the back…….just sayin. Believe GOD and ONLY GOD.

  • LD says:

    These words help …and I wish for all the people abide to have peace & to feel loved again…it is also what I want & need for myself…I feel myself slipping away but only because I want the pain to end. I would like the few I Love in my life to be honest with me, even if it hurts. The truth is always hard to hear but I need that. My first love always left me alone, I was a young mom in a big city away from home…I thought he loved me but I found out I loved him more than he loved me. I was stupid. I was alone & abandoned. I wrestle with feelings of rejection, even today. I’m good enough for me but I would love to share my life & love with someone. Coming from a single parent home with an abnormally & mentally abusive father made me so distrusting. Stay strong everyone.

  • Jasminka says:

    I want the world be my home again,because it was with my husband.Hugs and kisses

  • Debbie says:

    I want you to be happy You have turned my life around and gave me courage with the help of God. My husband died on the 15 of July 2014 from esophagus cancer. I have sold my house and I’m in the process of moving Going to Florida where it’s warm I’m going to start my own business and help cancer patients and petition for more endoscopy to try and save some lives I couldn’t of started this process with out you so Thank You I can’t say it enough So for me I want You to be happy and I want better screening for cancer

  • Robin~ says:

    I lost my husband, my friend, my soulmate. I’ve changed that scares everyone. I don’t laugh out loud, I am unable to hate argue with anyone. Unable to watch movies or programs where anyone hurts. I’ve always been aware of people’s emotional state. Now I feel what they feel even if we just met. My heart, all of me picks up on anyones feelings weather we are speaking or they are in line in front or behind me. Emotionally I’m tired, but I get up dress and show up. Years I’ve worked in the mental health field with many different cases. Many children, I now feel their pain..not as in I understand it. I feel it. Strangely I’ve told Noone of this till this moment. By no means do I feel special. I am as loss as the day he suddenly passed. I just feel everything. I now have gone back to being a Designer, Interior and flora. What I want more than anything is everyone have a relationship with God. It will make you stronger. Then the other is I truly wish everyone would simply love one another as if they were dying. Live with that much love, compassion every moment of the day. What a kinder place it would be to live. How so many wouldn’t hurt from Not kind people another day of their life.

  • linda says:

    Christina.. I want the same things that you want for others. That would make me happy and whole. To see and hear others being happy and healthy would give me some deeply needed peace of mind. I Thank you for finding the right words to say. You touch so many hearts that need healing. What a beautiful gift you give to the world. In love and light I thank you, Linda

  • Purity says:

    Christina,you are an angel in my heart.you simply take my burdens away.May you continue giving the hopeless hope and showing us that we are still worth living

  • polish princess says:

    I want to have enough money to pay my bills. I want to find someone to love and love me.

  • Tina Speas says:

    I want my Son back, alive and well. I want a good and healthy mother/daughter relationship with my estranged daughter.

  • sandy says:

    I want this pain to stop. I want to beleive I’ll see my Bill again

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