I have learned one thing during my journey through grief, that things are not as they appear to be.

The End is the beginning.

Suffering is change knocking.

Loss is long term love in disguise.

Grief is good at playing hide and seek.

I have learned that most of our behavior, good or bad stems from the loss we have endured.

Whether it is small losses, or big tragedies. Especially if it is the invisible type of grief, the loneliness, the sorrow of never having the dream, or never loving. Never being loved.

That is loss too.


Grief knows how to hide behind routine, behind noise and every day living.

Even if you have never been through a divorce, a death, or a job loss know that you have experienced loss.

If you think that you haven’t then your grief is really the expert here.

Your grief is the expert of peek-a-boo.

The expert of showing up as something else, something that could come across as a simple frustration, boredom or even dissatisfaction.

Ask yourself could these feelings come from something you never received?

Something you have been waiting for all of your life to have, and never got?

I call that the invisible loss.

This is one of the most difficult losses to heal from.

You have not been able to name it, a divorce, or a death or a break up, or a typical loss.

You can’t be acknowledged for it.

You get no sympathy.

You receive no kindness from the world.

You might even come across as bitter, angry and difficult to deal with.

It is not because you are any of the above, it is because deep deep down you are grieving.

Deep, deep down you are in pain.

It is ok, bare your head low.

Let your shoulders drop.

Sit down.

Tuck your feet in.

And feel it, cry it.

Let the river run through you.

No more stopping it.

No more pretending it is not there.

No more hiding.

You can’t move on and live the life that is waiting for you if you keep denying the losses you have experienced.

Will you tell the truth to yourself, and let grief reveal itself?

With love,


PS. Good news: Book made it to #70 for Motivation and #81 for Mental Health on Amazon and we are still 3 weeks away from release date. So this is pretty amazing! And we also found out today that all of pre-orders will be arriving at your house by October 18th. Sopre-order and you will get the book earlier than everyone else. I can’t wait for you to have it. Once you pre-order you can also come join our book club private group where we read the book and share all the changes you experience in life. 


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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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One Comment

  • Susan Schiller says:

    The end is only a new beginning… I’ve discovered this to be true. What you write about the worst grief of all… of losing your hope, your dream. It’s intangible, so no one sees your grief but you.

    I identify greatly with what you’ve shared here. And your banner says it all, too… Time does not heal wounds; action does.

    I’ve ordered your book, Christina, but it hasn’t arrived yet. I’m excited to read it!

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