When love knocks on your door second time around.

It will shake your foundation. 

It will take over your body.

It will actually feel like first love.

Hard to believe. But true.

And you know why?

Because it is your FIRST. 

It is your first love, 


You are no longer the same person who fell in love all those years ago. The person you are now has never experienced love. 

Every time you are denying love, you are also denying your breath, your speech, your life and ever truly giving back to the world.

You are denying your eyesight.

Your hunger.

And your essence of being.

If you are a human being, then you need to love and to feel loved.


It took me 2 years to ask this question to myself. 



And when I did, a wonderful man showed up sitting right next to me. Yes that’s right. He was sitting by my side when I met him. 

I fell in love. 

I giggled.

I shook.

I had sweaty hands.

And butterflies in my stomach…

He is now my husband. 

And no matter how much I loved my first love, I love my “Second First” Love as much. 

Never compare your first life with the second. 

Never forget your first love, because your second one arrived. 

Never guilt your self out of your second life if you find yourself laughing, loving and feeling like a kid. 


Will you give this a shot? 

I promise you this. 

Your heart longs to beat faster. 

Will you just listen to the yearning? 

Just listen. And start loving. 


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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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One Comment

  • Clarice says:

    My Second First Love was my First. Confusing.. ok. I fell in love and got married when I was 19, and after some time both of us realized we were best friends who married and had two sons. Two years after the divorce, I fell in love with my truly first love. And it hapenned in my second life.

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