I Am Not Going to Write About Robin Williams

I am not going to add to the conversations everyone is having about suicide and depression. I could talk about it, but that will not help me talk about joy and happiness. I am so very sad about Robin Williams just like everyone else, but if he was dictating my words he would want you to discover laughter, joy and happiness. He would shake his head to all the blogs that brought so much darkness.…

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Cancel your errands.

If you could see me I would be waving my arms up in the air. If you could hear my voice, it would be loud. This message today I want you to hear loud and clear. You are afraid of life.  I am afraid of life. We are afraid of life.  We are fearful of being out there. We are terrified of adventures.  We want our day to match our day before. No surprises. No unexpected things happening. Just a good…

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Begin the melting process…

I didn’t know I could fall in love again. After all, my heart was frozen. My body was alive but my brain kept telling my body to shut down. My mind declared a real war with my body and my heart. “Shut down body. Shut down… you in mourning.” My body was so confused. It knew my heart was broken. The body knew that it was experiencing immense pain after the loss of him. You see the body kept…

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Your Hiding Place

During my work with thousands of people I discovered a hiding place. Yes I did. This hiding place is situated right outside of the life we must leave behind after loss. We go there thinking it’s the new life. We go there to wait, wait to feel better. After all… you have been told that time is the only healer. And you listened. You did as you were told. You went there to wait. To wait so time…

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You are not sad. Just scared.

I never thought I would say this but here it goes. Fear is bigger than grief. It is bigger than tragedy.                       I am sorry to break this to you, but holding on to our story has nothing to do with sadness and loss. It has nothing to do with what terrible things have happened to us. But it has everything to do with being afraid…

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It’s all on YOU.

The truth about starting over is that it doesn’t just happen on its own. Your next chapter, your Second Firsts won’t just show up at your door with a big smile. The truth is, it’s all on YOU. Even though I believe in my work of life re-entry as I have been able to help many people mend their broken hearts it is not because of me that they heal. It is because of the actions and work they did…

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The ego of loss!

It took me a decade to discover a very simple truth that literally set me free. Happiness is a choice not an 'event based' experience. Happiness lives inside of us and it is not controlled by circumstances. Especially when we have gone through a huge heart break we hold on to that loss with all of our heart and soul and we base all of our unhappiness on that loss. Guess what? That loss is not…

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