The Family Makers

Lately, it has felt as if we have all died and went to some kind of afterlife, where we are all stuck at home. Alone. 

This type of interruption of life, seems almost unearthly. 

We can’t breathe the air. We can’t hug people. 

We can’t travel. We have postponed relationships. 

Dreams. Building new houses. Moving. Dating even. 

And it seems like, whatever this is, it’s going to last a while. 

This is why we have to discover a new way to be together. 

We may have to reengineer everything even though we don’t feel like engineers. 

We have to remake things even though we don’t know how. 

This feels like a first in so many ways. 

You see, even when we birth children they come to this world a certain way. 

And we teach them to live life the way we were taught.

There has always been some kind of template, a plan. 

A way we were shown.  

But who is teaching us now? 

Who is preparing us for this new way of being?

Who is showing us the way. 

Teachers have to find a new way to teach. 

Doctors have to discover new ways to do medicine. 

Families have to figure out a different way to be together. 

So we have to make our own way. 

We must construct different types of groupings. 

Maybe a different set up, or hierarchy. 

And what if, we look to our neighbors, as we put together councils that can lead smaller portions of the world. 

I know we are grieving what was, and it is so important to do just that. 

But I also know that when we are done with the anger, the denial, the bargaining, the grief, we will seek to create a new world. (Click to tweet!)

With new bonds, new circles and a different kind of engineering. 

I know you are probably thinking, how can I do that sitting all alone at home? 

How can I be a maker of a new world? 

You will have to start from where you are, and with what you’ve got. 

Start by creating a small group.

A group of people that choose to belong to each other. 

Not like a marriage or a relationship, but as a safe circle.

One that can sustain us during the transition and help us make a new kind of family. 

We have to safely find a way to be with friends again, in new places where we can create together, have dinners together and hug each other without being afraid of getting sick. 

Start with some of the people you know, ask them if they want to be a part of your circle. Maybe an aunt who lives a few blocks away from you. 

Or even a grandparent who keeps to themselves. 

A friend who is isolated in her home. 

Call them and make them a part of something. 

Together you can talk about how to quarantine, where to pick up the groceries from. 

How to stay safe. Take turns with errands. 

Some of it we have done before, we just haven’t done it together. 

And you just never know, we may just even get to have closer and deeper relationships because of it. 

With bigger families,

Christina 

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