But we live inside a room with no windows.
A room that keeps us thinking this is the only room.
There are Infinite rooms.
I didn’t really understand this fully until the last couple of years.
You see, all of us are capable of occupying many rooms.
Some of us can live in many different ones at the same time.
Others can move linearly from one room to the next.
And some stay in the same room forever.
These rooms are separate life paths.
When we go through a devastating loss we are told the room we occupied all this time is no longer available to us.
This is harsh, but true.
We are then told to pack our things and move into a different room.
A lot of us go back inside the room and try to stay.
We think that we can make it work.
Sure it is darker than before but it is better than a new room.
Or no room at all.
Our mind lies to us.
It tells us this is the only room that exists.
Exploring is a waste of time.
And we stay.
Stay in the dark room.
The lonely room.
The room with no future.
The room of ghosts. Silence.
In there, the loneliness lady lives.
In there, the anniversary train visits.
In there, the room becomes the Waiting Room.
At this point, the lock turns.
The door closes more permanently.
We go to bed. And we die there.
Yes so many of us never find our way out.
I am going to now pull you out of this picture.
Give you a bird’s eye view.
Imagine I can take you up from your room, like a drone would.
See yourself inside that room, laying on the bed.
As we pull higher up, you start to see all the other rooms right next to yours.
Some of them are big.
With incredible views.
Others have many rooms in one space. Floors even.
And they connect to other rooms.
We keep going higher up.
And we see a whole city of beautiful rooms with many lives, and new dreams, breathtaking landscapes.
I am going to stop us for a second right here.
Take it all in, it is the truth.
The truth your mind has been trying to hide from you.
You have so many new possibilities.
There are so many choices.
Now we are going to go back, back to that room.
We descend slowly, with tears in our eyes, knowing how we nearly missed all these other rooms and lives we could have had.
You are now inside the old life, in your room.
You look around you and you now know this is no longer your life.
You grab your things. Not all of them, just enough.
And walk out.
Your next room won’t be visible at first as you come out of the old room.
But keep taking the steps.
All of a sudden you will see not just one new room but a few.
You will learn that in this next chapter after your loss, you have choices.
Options. You get to choose from a variety of rooms.
You get to be a room walker.
As you keep moving forward you find out what I found out.
That your life belongs to many rooms, and your keys in your pocket can open more doors than you ever thought were possible.
To thousands of rooms,
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