Today I don’t want to talk about the Holidays.

Everyone else is talking about it. So I won’t do that.

People like us have a different timetable when it comes to the holidays.

We don’t really want them to be here and we behave in ways others don’t during it.

I would rather focus on our new life and identity than the Christmas tree.

So…as I was driving yesterday back from my hiking I stopped at a traffic light and looked out. From my passenger window I saw this woman in her late 60s wearing a deep red leather coat. Vibrant red high heels and hat and had the perfect amount of lipstick and makeup on.

She walked as if she knew who she was.

As if she didn’t care that she stood out.

Her step was certain.

Her eyes were focused on her own path ahead without really caring to see if anyone was staring.

She was so beautiful. So taken care of. So breathtaking.

In that moment in time I wondered about her life. Her losses. Her heartbreaks.

I was certain she had a few.

But how did she come out the other side with so much self care?

How did she thrive in herself like this?

The light went green and I had to drive away from her.

I gave her one last look and took her inside my mind forever.

The rest of the drive back to my house was in a haze. I wondered what does it take to be so taken care of by our own self. I know it takes buckets of self worth.

It takes discipline. It takes courage.

It takes determination.

For the first time in my life I didn’t just want to be the woman in the red coat and red high heels one day. I wanted to find a way to be her sooner (click to tweet). To get to her now. Like today.

I know she is within me somewhere but she has been hidden.

I started bringing her out with wearing lipstick every day.

I found this crayon like lipstick.

And you know what I am going to add the link here in case someone wants this.

It’s not too bright. It’s not too lipstick like. It’s a transition lipstick.

Or shall I say Reentry lipstick haha.

So….this is what I want to ask you for this week.

As I said before be however and wherever you want to be in this holiday season.

Under the covers with your PJS if you need to.

But I am going to ask for one small detail.

Will you wear lipstick while you are under the covers?

Just for a tiny plugin

(a small action towards the new life)

Just for this part of reentry. Just for fun. Just because.

And if you are a man reading this. Do a really good clean shave. Yes?

Put something on your skin that is special and go under the covers after.

Be special for yourself.

If you take a photo of yourself with your Reentry Lipstick. Send it to me.

So I can share it with others and we can inspire the world together.


With so much love for you


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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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One Comment

  • Ginger says:

    This was special for me. Three years ago, at the age of 52 I lost my husband unexpectedly. I started wearing lipstick again, specifically Red lipstick. My boys got tired of finding it on all the glasses and coffee cups. I don’t leave the house without it.

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