We are so alone. Aren’t we?

Inside the chaos, the uncertainty. The longing. 

We find ourselves in a crowd of strangers.

Especially now. Right in the midst of much friction. 

Alternate realities within that same relationship, of mothers and fathers. 

Sisters and brothers. Husbands and wives. 

Friends for decades before, under so many moons, find themselves in conflict of one another. 

Losing each other within different stories of the same thing. 

What must we do? Where is it that we can turn to? 

How do we even go on, ignoring the alternate story that plays in the midst of us. (Click to tweet!)

Do we forget the love? The moons? The stories before this one? 

Do we stay, regardless of the new rock forming in between. 

Do we linger with bare feet knowing it hurts. Do we share the rock. 

The being with it all, until it goes. Until it is forgotten. 

Until the old comes back, without the strain of it. 

Do we stay until then. Do we quiet down the fight? 

Stop the loss from happening? Can we? Must we? 

What would our parents say? The grandparents. 

What did they do in the early and mid 1900s when these things happened then…too. 

Did they part ways when the rocks came in between? 

When the fights about things started? Someone must know. 

Someone can tell us how to be with the people we love whom we don’t agree with. 

Oh dear one, I know this is a hard one. 

But I think what you choose to do with the new rock in your relationship is going to be right. Trust the choice you will make. 

There is no right or wrong answer about any of this. There is no advice. 

Nobody can say what needs to happen.

The only thing we must do is look for the lessons, whether the choice is to stay or go. 

Whether we forgive or not. 

It is what we learned that matters in the end. 

When all is said and done, we will only remember the lessons of that rock in between. 

If a cherished relationship is falling apart in the midst of this current climate, trust yourself and make the decision that is right for you. 

Grab a pen and paper and write down the things you learned during these last few months, specifically the last couple of weeks. 

Be clear, and then choose how to go about the relationship that is hurting you. 

Trust yourself with whatever decision you make. 

It will be the right one. 


With a lot of lessons inside many relationships,


P.S. And I so hope you get a chance to listen to this week’s Dear Life Podcast conversation with Medium Jamie Butler. Listen HERE

*Music I listened to while writing this letter ‘The Way We Were’ By Barbara Streisand

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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