Every day, I walk in and out of people’s lives. 

Sometimes I get to walk in further than others. 

But sometimes we only get to sit in your comfy area of your journey where everything is tidy and neat and everything looks as it should be. 

Unfortunately I can’t stay there for long. 

As this is not my job. 

My job is not to be within your comfort zone. 

My job is to see the whole you. 

So sooner or later I ask permission to walk in to other rooms of your life, where we get to see the different layers of you and your dreams. I want to meet your personality, your attitude, your passion and above all your pain. 

It is not comfortable.

It is not easy.

And my visit all of a sudden is not fun and games, but the real deal. 

There is a door in everyone’s life that can lead to change and I am there to find that door and help you open it so we can walk in together. 

And it is not that you have not seen the door, or that you did not know how to open it. It has to do with being able to walk in together with someone else who can see you with more clarity and objectivity. 

That someone else can see your light, your inner cosmos and bring that out and ultimately place it in plain view so everyone who walks into your life, sees the real you. 

Imagine what you could do in your life if everyone around you were surrounding you because of your most strong part that lives within you.

Imagine what you could create….


Oh the possibilities of your life stemming from that door you just opened is endless. 

The question I must ask you is…do you have someone like that who is ready to be uncomfortable with you. Someone who will go and visit with you in the untidy parts of your life and still want to find the door that you need to open so you can live your life from your strengths and not your weaknesses. 

I know not everyone can have me as their co-pilot but did you know finding someone like that is not that hard, it actually starts from you. 

But it requires you to let people all the way in, and you can only do this if you can perceive yourself strong enough to do the following.

Let someone all the way in, and if that person does not have what it takes you are strong enough to walk them all the way out and shut the door behind them.

That my dear, takes a lot of courage. 

But not as much courage as waiting for the right moment to share your inner world with someone. And spending months and years hoping that they will love all of you when they do. 

So what do you say, next time you meet someone new whether this person is just a friend, a lover, or someone who is just walking by, you let them know who you are. 

Would that change your life?


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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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