The Boxing Ring

Some days it’s like your life is inside a boxing ring. You are being thrown around. You can’t get out, or look like you are in pain. Nobody knows what this really feels like. They think you can handle it. But deep down you are hurting. Fantasizing that you are crawling out of the ring. Hiding somewhere so life can’t find you, and throw you around. How long can you stay? Taking the punches.…

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How To Take Off Your Clothes And Claim Your Destiny

All of a sudden, I found myself in a place without the paralyzing fear I had been feeling. It was like oxygen in my lungs. Euphoria. Ecstasy even. Imagine life without fear. Even just imagining this, brings you to a deep breath. Yes. At first it was truly a surprising feeling but I was enjoying it. And spending my days in this place had been awesome. But as you know by now, I love to…

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The Guide To Being Outrageous Before, After And While Grieving

I have to tell you. I am getting too used to living outside the box. With the minority. From outside the mainstream. From the corner of the universe. As a matter of fact, it is kind of fun to say outrageous things. Shock your friends and family members. I am enjoying this. More than I ever thought I would. Imagine discovering that living outside the box is more fun than inside of it. Oh,…

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All the things that Mary Poppins is teaching us

I saw Mary Poppins Returns movie trailer appearing every day as I was getting ready for the release of Where Did You Go? But I never put the two together. How could have I known? How could I have foreseen such a thing? That they were not only being released at the exact same time, but that people from all over the world would write to tell me how many parallels they have been finding between…

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How to Wake Up your Dragon in 2019

You have to have a strong sense of self. A clear picture of who you are, what you stand for. What it is you believe in. You have to be tree-like, like the trees with huge trunks, that can’t be destroyed in bad weather. You must claim your place in the world, and not be shaken or fallen. Did you know that the world’s oldest tree is in Sweden and it is nearly 10,000 years old? The oldest tree has…

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Be rebellious today

The holiday season is not for the faint of heart. Not for the bereaved. Not for the heartbroken. Not for those who lost the people they celebrated with. Millions of people spend the holiday season sobbing. Millions spend it making rebellious new traditions. Millions spend it with new friends. New loves. New beginnings. But even those, those who boldly go forward they will find a moment, to sob.…

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The 10 surprising things I learned about LIFE from visiting the AFTERLIFE

When my husband died in 2006, I discovered that the distance between life and death was very short. It became very clear that we are here one moment and gone the next. Death is immediate. I may even go as far as to say that death is not inside our linear time. If you blink you would miss death. It comes and it takes us outside of this reality, and moves us into a place outside of a linear…

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Five things you need to know about your life after loss

I was finishing an interview with the incredible Jamie Butler at the Lighter Side show which by the way you need to check out. An incredible human being and I highly recommend her work. Our interview together will be posted next week. As we finished our chat Jamie asked me where do you get all this passion from and I said to her that when I discover something that everyone needs to know about,…

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The 10 Things I Wish I Knew About The Holidays After Loss

I started this letter at a time when nobody was writing about grief, or even about grief and the Holidays. And those who were, were not discussing the elephant in the room. The loneliness. The deep sadness of the Holidays. You see, happy seasons, are the saddest seasons for people who are grieving. Even the sun shining brightly in the winter, can feel like loss. Even bells ringing. Carols.…

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As temperatures drop, fierce winds strip limbs bare revealing vulnerability, dimension and honesty. Geese overhead parade the sky with their horn section playing that familiar tune of change. Their echoes - soon distant - resonate melancholy across the barren sky. This passing gets me. Please stay longer. I can’t be the only one haunted by loss? Leaning into the echo, I adjust the lens of my…

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