Lately, I have been talking a lot about love.

I don’t normally.

Not because there is anything wrong with loving again after loss but I deeply believe that Life Reentry®™ after loss has to do with our whole self reemerging and not just finding one person to love.

So, I often stay away from writing about it.

But even though that is the main principle I live my life by I also believe that loving again after loss should be part of Life Reentry®.

I think we are here to love many people and not just one.

You know what came to me recently?

That we don’t get to meet and love all of our soulmates.

This letter is for you if you feel that the world is full of the wrong people.

This is for you if you miss companionship and deep down you wished you could meet someone new.

If that is you, keep reading. Please.

I am going to ask you to imagine that your future person is sitting somewhere right now having a cup of coffee.

And they feel the same way as you do.

Alone. Unloved.

Imagine if both of you found a way to each other.

Imagine if you could share your stories of loss.

Imagine if you could share moments and days with one another.

When you think this person does not exist you are not only hurting yourself but them too. Never ever allow your mind to tell you that there is nobody out there for you.

It is a lie. It is a fear induced thought.

It is not the natural way of the world.

We are here to love more than once or twice. (Click to Tweet!)

You are here to express your love to that person who is out there waiting for someone like you.

Now close your eyes.

And imagine them sitting there on their own.

Maybe they are at home with their dog watching TV passing time.

Maybe they are in bed crying themselves to sleep feeling like nobody loves them.

Feeling all alone in the world. Like you do. Like you feel.

What would you say to them if you could?

Imagine having the chance to tell them these words. And keep imagining it. Until you do for real.

I know your mind is doubting that this is true, that someone is out there waiting for you.

A second soulmate or even a third one.

Don’t doubt it, it is the truth.

It really is.

There is a person out there needing your love.

And something tells me you need theirs.

Can we try finding them?


I am going to ask you to do this one thing for me.

Just one.

Whenever you are out there running errands, going out with a friend look for your future person.

I bet you anything you want he/she is out there looking for you.

Just scan the room see if you can spot them.

I know it sounds simple but most people never look to find them.

They just believe that they don’t exist and even if they did, they think they could never find them.

I don’t want this to be you.

You are one of my readers.

You and I believe in life reentry. In love.

In miracles. In divine synchronicity.

In luck.

With timeless love for you,


P.S. This fall we will put together our first professional Life Reentry® class for 10 therapists, social workers and grief counselors who want to become Life Reentry® Practitioners.

The training will take place in an online class so we can have practitioners trained all over the world.

If you are interested in being considered for not just this next class but for all future professional training please make sure you add your name to the waiting list.

Also if you are not a licensed professional in the near future we will open the doors to people who have been touched by loss so much that they want to dedicate their life’s work to helping others. The Life Reentry® Institute has been a big dream of mine and it is about to come true.

PPS. You can reach out to us via email. Ask us anything and someone from our team will respond!

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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  • Melanie says:

    My boyfriend is going through his first year after losing his wife. It’s been a rough couple of months of him questioning and wondering if he’s doing the right thing by dating again. Our story is one full of history, 23 years worth, so we ended up dating pretty early after his loss. I was also good friends with him and his wife both. Anyway, my point is, reading your posts has helped me to understand more about what he is going through and dealing with. I can’t thank you enough.

  • Denise says:

    Your words are so connected to Spirit!

    I hold this same revelation, that a man just like me, worthy and alone, is looking for me.

    I started setting my table for two, and trying to hold space emotionally for him.

    Something calls to me about the Life Reentry Institute. I am not certified but want to give back.

  • Jean Marie Geysen says:

    It’s been two years since my love passed on.
    I have met a wonderful man who has joined me on my path of reentering life.
    It is hard at times to not feel guilty for finding love again but know that is what Matt would have wanted for me.

    I am very interested in the reentering life institute I would love to be able to help others.

  • Deana Carter says:

    I know it’s time for me time, a good ideal to actively look for someone.
    Last two years whirlwind of kids new grandchildren, learning to being mom and grandmother, not parents or grandparents

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