I realized lately that we have two different types of sadness.

Both are hard.

But one of them is deeply hidden.

Even for the smartest, most aware and strong people.

I guess, especially for them.

And because of that, it is the most dangerous one.

Finding the source of this kind of sadness can be a very complex endeavor.

Most people can’t figure out what makes them deeply sad, for so long.

Especially sadness that is hidden.

Under rocks and inside oceans.

So far down that it moves the water…under the water.

A systemic sadness can linger under surface.


For never to be seen.

I had this type of sadness.

And I dismissed it because I have had sadness that brings waves to the surface as tall as the Eiffel Tower.

“Surely” I said to myself “the Eiffel sadness is more real than the deep ocean one.”

But I learned something lately.

Both could wipe you out.

Ocean sadness takes you slowly.

Eiffel sadness instantly.

I had become such an expert on Eiffel that when I experienced the ocean sadness I was able to be with it and still live fully.

My skills of the Eiffel had made me so good at the deep ocean.

I had more time to tend to it.

It felt like I could be in charge of it.

And I was.

I really was.

Until one day the deep ocean sadness rose so high up that it started to feel like Eiffel.

It could no longer stay in deep waters.

I knew then I had to do something.

And I maneuvered everything in my life. So I could save it.

I am here today to ask you, is your sadness the ocean type too?

How can you tell?

Even if your sadness started as an Eiffel due to a traumatic event, when it never goes away and you learn to live with it, it becomes the deep ocean sadness.

Do not overlook this type of sadness.

It can be very dangerous because we don’t see its height.

Its strength.

And for those of you who never had the Eiffel, you can have the deep ocean one without a big traumatic event in your life.

So don’t you dismiss it.

This is how we lose people.

We lose strong beautiful people when they underestimate the deep ocean systemic form of sadness.

Rule number one.

Remove anything in your life that makes you feel like you are about to lose your mind. If you feel that, know it is not your imagination.

You are not over-reacting.

This is your soul trying to save your life.

Listen.  (Click to tweet!)

With so much listening,


P.S. Watch my new interview with my friend Allison Maslan here:

Video: https://bit.ly/2txIwQX

Podcast: https://apple.co/2EoGyIS

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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