“Yes, we need to boldly go forward, but we also have to talk about the aftermath of loss.”

– Christina Rasmussen

Permanent marker

What you will CHOOSE to do with your day today will be sketched with a permanent marker. There is no eraser that comes with it. No extra paper underneath. And no white out. Every action, every word, every thought will not be undone, will not be forgotten and will not be anyone else's. Now there is one more challenge. Your masterpiece has to be an original. Today's creation should be unlike all…

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Make some noise

Today started out just like any other day. You were just about to retrace yesterday's steps. You were getting ready to recreate your default routine. Did you know that when your day matches yesterday, and yesterday matches the day before, that's not called living? Its called REWINDING! What will it take to put one foot in front of the other and go claim the unknown, the uncertain and the…

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I choose to be happy

I can almost envision you. I see your face, your frozen glare resting somewhere in the room you are in. I sense heaviness. The air around you is dense. And the feeling that accompanies you, has circled your heart with a bucket of sorrow. That's OK. I understand, its not easy to carry the steel frame of grief day in and day out. But did you know, you could teach yourself to feel lighter? And did…

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Dressing Up

The morning is here and you are getting up to face another day. STOP. Right here.... And Rewind. OK. Let's try again... The morning is here and you are getting up to a brand new day that COULD change your life. Because of that realization, you decide to wear something you keep for special occasions. All of a sudden you feel a tiny little butterfly in your stomach. Dressing up for the day is…

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The sea of life

I know there are days in your life that can feel not only suffocating but also very unexpected. The sea is calm and welcoming and you think it's ok to dive in but as you are swimming in the big blue ocean......there it comes. It grabs you and throws you around so much that you won't even consider going in the blue waters ever again. You must be prepared for the next time that massive menacing…

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A request from within

I have a favor to ask of you today. It has to do with your ability to overcome severe struggles, tragedies, and above all loss. This ability lives inside of you every day and its called Perseverance. Since it has made it's home there, Perseverance has made friends with your inner Wisdom. They talk to each other quite often. And today your inner Wisdom made a request. It has asked Perseverance to…

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Just like the wind

Your day is almost like the wind.  It comes and goes in an invisible force leaving untraceable energy.  But if you choose to run with it and follow where it takes you, I guarantee you will find yourself in beautiful surroundings, with unforgettable people. Your day will be visibly here and memorably yours. Open your door, feel the breeze, and follow the energy. Your magic carpet is standing by.…

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Practicing Gratitude

Did you know that human brains are hard-wired to scout for trouble? Back in caveman days, or even the wild wild west, continuously scanning your surroundings for trouble was a useful way for us to be hard-wired, since danger and life-threatening situations loomed around every corner. And when you’re in the middle of a divorce or separation, it’s natural to feel more pessimistic than optimistic.…

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Benefit of the Doubt

by Diana Mercer What would happen if you gave everyone (and your former spouse or partner, in particular) the benefit of the doubt? I know that’s a challenging idea, particularly if you’re in the middle of a separation or a divorce, when your inclination to forgive certain annoyances for the sake of staying in the crumbling relationship may already be out the window. What would happen if you put…

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The Art of Reinvention

While contemplating a gift for my mother’s seventieth birthday celebration, I realized that she is the one who has given a priceless gift to us, her loved ones, throughout her life.  The gift is one that epitomizes the message of Second Firsts...teaching us how to rebuild and reclaim life.  She has inspired us by doing it several times over in the course of her seven decades.   It is said that…

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