“Yes, we need to boldly go forward, but we also have to talk about the aftermath of loss.”

– Christina Rasmussen

Dressing Up

The morning is here and you are getting up to face another day. STOP. Right here.... And Rewind. OK. Let's try again... The morning is here and you are getting up to a brand new day that COULD change your life. Because of that realization, you decide to wear something you keep for special occasions. All of a sudden you feel a tiny little butterfly in your stomach. Dressing up for the day is…

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The sea of life

I know there are days in your life that can feel not only suffocating but also very unexpected. The sea is calm and welcoming and you think it's ok to dive in but as you are swimming in the big blue ocean......there it comes. It grabs you and throws you around so much that you won't even consider going in the blue waters ever again. You must be prepared for the next time that massive menacing…

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A request from within

I have a favor to ask of you today. It has to do with your ability to overcome severe struggles, tragedies, and above all loss. This ability lives inside of you every day and its called Perseverance. Since it has made it's home there, Perseverance has made friends with your inner Wisdom. They talk to each other quite often. And today your inner Wisdom made a request. It has asked Perseverance to…

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Just like the wind

Your day is almost like the wind.  It comes and goes in an invisible force leaving untraceable energy.  But if you choose to run with it and follow where it takes you, I guarantee you will find yourself in beautiful surroundings, with unforgettable people. Your day will be visibly here and memorably yours. Open your door, feel the breeze, and follow the energy. Your magic carpet is standing by.…

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Practicing Gratitude

Did you know that human brains are hard-wired to scout for trouble? Back in caveman days, or even the wild wild west, continuously scanning your surroundings for trouble was a useful way for us to be hard-wired, since danger and life-threatening situations loomed around every corner. And when you’re in the middle of a divorce or separation, it’s natural to feel more pessimistic than optimistic.…

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Benefit of the Doubt

by Diana Mercer What would happen if you gave everyone (and your former spouse or partner, in particular) the benefit of the doubt? I know that’s a challenging idea, particularly if you’re in the middle of a separation or a divorce, when your inclination to forgive certain annoyances for the sake of staying in the crumbling relationship may already be out the window. What would happen if you put…

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The Art of Reinvention

While contemplating a gift for my mother’s seventieth birthday celebration, I realized that she is the one who has given a priceless gift to us, her loved ones, throughout her life.  The gift is one that epitomizes the message of Second Firsts...teaching us how to rebuild and reclaim life.  She has inspired us by doing it several times over in the course of her seven decades.   It is said that…

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Leap of Faith

By Sharmaine L Hobbs, www.whenwomenawaken.com In 2004, I took a trip to the Homestead Resort. When I got off at the Lexington exit to get some tablets, I saw a woman holding a sign that said, “STRANDED, NEED TO GET BACK TO MICHIGAN.”  I charged a tank of gas on my credit card and gave her the receipt. I knew this woman was the real reason I was led to get off the exit.  She was a stranger, but I…

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It’s Not What Happens to You; It’s What You Do with It

by Paulette Rao, MCC I make choices every day as to how I’ll respond to things that happen to me. When things are not going the way I want, my default thinking tends to be either worry or avoidance of looking at ‘what is’. Both choices—yes, they are choices—rob me of an opportunity to grow. In “My Stroke of Insight”, neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor explains that limbic system responses, like…

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