“Yes, we need to boldly go forward, but we also have to talk about the aftermath of loss.”

– Christina Rasmussen

Christina’s story of loss and rebirth..

by Christina Rasmussen “Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.” —Marcel Proust When my terminally ill, 35-year-old beloved husband lay dying on a small hospital bed, with two oxygen masks over his mouth, I knew the kind of terror that was coming next. I knew that grief was about to overtake me. I felt that heavy dread, but, at the same time, as…

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The Birth of Second Firsts

by Christina Rasmussen The name Second Firsts was born at 2:00am in December 2008 while sitting at my desk trying to figure out what I needed to do with my life. Still grieving very strongly, but also having passion for my life's purpose, I knew then that my life was a gift and i was about to offer it to the world. Second Firsts was not a reality yet, but a thought was planted. It was a mere…

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Your journey back

Your journey back to life with grief as your co-pilot might be somewhat unexpected. And I am not talking about the waves of grief, but about your developing heart and mind. Just think about all the changes that are taking place while your are figuring out your new reality. So many of them... Assume nothing is the same, and everything can be questioned. Your role is to stay alert while organizing…

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The distinction

Who you are supposed to be because of your loss, and who you truly are, are two very distinct things. There is a difference between living your life under the world's perception of grief and under your self-made realization of loss. Being able to tell the difference and live by it, will allow you to create the life you want." Which umbrella do you use when grief rains? Your taylor-made one with…

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Your life’s new addition

Your ability to get through your day while carrying grief on your back, greatly depends on your wish to get stronger and better equipped along the way. The life choices you make while you are baring the load will determine the 'when' and the 'how' the weight will lessen. The people and the experiences you will be exposed to during that time are there to be part of this journey. They are there to…

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The weight of grief

In the beginning you carry around the heaviness of your loss with the lightness of your soul. It only gets easier when your heart grows to the size that compares to the weight of your grief." And don't forget the heavier your grief, the larger the soul.

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Happy

Don't ever forget, feeling happy is still a part of who you are. You just have to decide that, what you are made of is a choice, and not just the outcome of your circumstances. What is the experience you will create today that will anchor you within that happy part of yourself?

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Shift your vision

It's not only the loss you are up against every single day, but also your beliefs on how your life should have turned out. Shift your vision of your life to a new reality and feel the change of your emotions. The weight of what should have been takes a back seat. Now the driver of your life is the lightness of hope for what could be. You must think outside of the box on this one. What could be,…

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My guiding light

I am just like you. I visit my past and bring back all the memories I need to help me in my journey forward. My place of loss and tragedy has become my guiding light, my advisor and the holder of perspective. Without it I cannot be the woman who inspires the world to reclaim their life. Without it there is no awakening from the sleep of life and passion for love." Have you spotted the brightness…

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Fearless

"If you catch yourself in fear today, remember this. It's your memory of suffering that's telling you to be afraid. Not your experience of the present moment. Let your mind build a fearless future and your destiny has a chance to be reclaimed" - Christina Rasmussen What are you willing to do today so you get to visit yourself without fear opening the door?

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