Starting From Scratch

We hold on to what we have built and have created with average success and average joy, fearing that if we let it go we would not be able to get back to that average. So we avoid starting from scratch at all costs. Even if where we are today is not a good place to be, we stay there. For a lot of us, it is easier to stay in something we don’t like than having to begin again. So today, I want to…

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Space Travel During Thanksgiving Dinner

Last night I dreamed that I was an astronaut in my own spaceship. I was floating in space amongst the stars. I could see all the sparklers around me and my body was experiencing a floating sensation. It was so real that I felt as if I was really there. It lasted just a few seconds but the memory of it will last forever. You see, one of my dreams is to go to space. It is a real dream. One that I…

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The Rewrite

This year I am about to do the biggest rewrite of my life. And no, it is not because of a loss I experienced or a tragedy I witnessed. The rewrite is not because I don’t like my life. It is because I simply changed. (Click to Tweet!) I changed while I was making my dreams come true. My wishes are no longer what they used to be. And that is when the rewrite must begin again. You must respect your…

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Starting From Scratch

We hold on to what we have built and have created with average success and average joy, fearing that if we let it go we would not be able to get back to that average. So we avoid starting from scratch at all costs. Even if where we are today is not a good place to be, we stay there. For a lot of us, it is easier to stay in something we don’t like than having to begin again. So today I want to…

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Yes. I still believe in Fairy Tales.

I still believe in fairy tales. Yes you read right. Yep. I believe in love. I believe in dreams. I believe in miracles. I believe in laughter after tragedy. I believe in eternity. In heaven. In friendships. In human kindness. In spirit. In connection. I have seen so many… many miracles happen after tragic… tragic losses. I have seen so much beauty after hardship. So much light in the darkness.…

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The Forbidden Thoughts

I am going to dive inside your mind today. I am going right in. I am going to find the thousands of repetitive thoughts you think every day and change them. And you are going to help me find them. Yes you are. Imagine every morning you wake up and you say things to yourself that you said….1,2,3 years ago. You think it’s a new day, you are older, wiser and obviously you want different things in…

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Your Hiding Place

During my work with thousands of people I discovered a hiding place. Yes I did. This hiding place is situated right outside of the life we must leave behind after loss. We go there thinking it’s the new life. We go there to wait, wait to feel better. After all… you have been told that time is the only healer. And you listened. You did as you were told. You went there to wait. To wait so time…

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GIVE.

I discovered something unexpected in my years of helping others. Something you might not like to hear. I must say it took me a while to see this. Primarily because it is hard to believe. So here it goes. The people who I could never help, the people who stayed in grief, sorrow and loss were the people who did not know how to give. They also did not know how to thank. On top of that, they expected…

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Just a simple letter

You know I love talking to you.  I love telling you all of my thoughts.  It's as if we met before.  In some other life.  Under different circumstances. Maybe at the beach.  Or in my neighborhood passing by.  In a simple setting with the sun shining and with a light heart.  In that life I did not lose a daughter, or a husband.  Nor did you.  In that life we met by chance not because of grief but…

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