“Don’t let grief destroy the part of you, you need the most. “

– Christina Rasmussen

Radical Self-Care

My husband died recently; suddenly and tragically. He had a fun day, his last day: lunch with our 14 year old boy, shopping around town together, wearing torn khaki shorts and Hunter boots. He spent time pruning his vineyard, and working to upgrade our internet. It was a nice day, like many other wonderful days in my husbands’ life. In the early hours of the next morning, walking to the bathroom,…

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Wipe the Kitchen Counters

I always had a messy kitchen. Stuff everywhere. I used to always have excuses as to why my kitchen was messy. -I have small kids. -I am a single parent. -I am a working mom -A clean kitchen does not mean a great life Anyways, you get the point. So recently… I got real with myself and stopped lying about how much my kitchen bothered me. I would walk into my kitchens in all the houses I have ever…

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The Spin

About 3 weeks ago I experienced an episode of vertigo. And then another, and another. In these episodes everything spins. I have no control over my surroundings and nausea from the spinning overtakes me. While I spin, I also panic. Last week I was to speak at a big event in Seattle called Urban Campfire. Hundreds of women would be there and I was scheduled to be their opening keynote speaker.…

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I Have Found Ways

Grief comes not just when one dies, but when one's life, as they know it dies. I lost the life I knew when I was 18. I was almost ready to leave home to study history at the University of Reading, England. It was summer, and I was at a camp, volunteering when I came down with something that felt like the flu. I was feverish and exhausted and, after the sunny days on an animal sanctuary in Kent,…

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The Boston Marathon Was Just A Warm-up

Running is the beginning, middle, end and beginning again of my story. My relationship with running is the longest relationship I’ve ever had. When I was eight I ran away from home. Literally, I ran down the dirt road behind my house that ran along the peach orchard my family owned, until I couldn’t run anymore and walked back home. Then when I was fifteen and qualified for the state track meet,…

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Stepping Forward

*A Note from Christina: I'm so excited for today's debut of the Life Starter's Blog Series with the inspirational Paige Davis. I have had the greatest honor and fortune of hearing your powerful stories of personal transformation and I wanted to share them all. Because I know that together we can help support, inspire and lift one another. Every Tuesday, we will proudly feature your stories. If…

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Cancel your errands.

If you could see me I would be waving my arms up in the air. If you could hear my voice, it would be loud. This message today I want you to hear loud and clear. You are afraid of life.  I am afraid of life. We are afraid of life.  We are fearful of being out there. We are terrified of adventures.  We want our day to match our day before. No surprises. No unexpected things happening. Just a good…

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Call them out!

Why do we try to be liked by people who don't like us? Have you ever tried to be liked by someone who obviously has no interest in you?  You keep talking to them.  Trying to sound interesting.  But it does not matter.  They keep ignoring you.  They keep trying to minimize your accomplishments and your worth.  But you do not stop trying.  Maybe, next time.  Maybe when you do this or that, they…

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If only…

I know I keep trying to convince you to start taking action towards the life you want to have.  And not wait for the life to come to you.  I give you hope.  I ask you to value yourself. I promise you that you can be happy again. I tell you that you can fall in love again. I tell you that you are loved.  Wanted. And desired by the world.  But it does not matter what I tell you.  You desire to…

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Guest blog-I’ve Lost My Parents, But They’re Still Alive

Growing up there was a lot of partying going on in my house; I just thought that was normal. People were always over: dancing to music, relaxing in the hot tub, laughing, just having nonstop fun until the sun rises. I thought this must be how every family is - I take care of my little brother and they party. This is normal. Then as I grew up I realized this was far from the truth. It wasn’t…

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