“Don’t let grief destroy the part of you, you need the most. “

– Christina Rasmussen

May You Dance

May your coming year be the year you get to believe that life is owned by you and nobody should tell you how to live it. I hope you spend countless hours walking next to beautiful crushing waves with sand all over your feet. May you find ways to express all your feelings so you are open wide for new loves. I hope this year you will feel understood, seen and loved like never before. You will find…

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Happy Crazy Insane Holidays to You My Darling

It took a split moment of insanity to change my life in 2007 just a few days before Christmas. For those of you who read my book and watched my interviews, you know that during the second Christmas after my loss, I chased down the mailman in snowy Lexington MA. The chasing on that cold Saturday morning, changed my life in ways I never imagined. The power of choosing life in such a small…

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Carve Out Your Name

Sometimes I look at all eternity and wonder if any of the work I do really matters in the vastness of the cosmos. This world is so big, and so infinite, and so endless that these words on this page make no difference whatsoever. Should I still write them? Would it matter if I didn’t? Would it matter if I did? Purpose is the only thing that keeps our souls alive and doing. (Click to Tweet!) It…

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The Second Place Myth of Adoption

Last week I celebrated the one month birthday of my new daughter Maggie. The rewards have been immense and I’ve cried more tears of gratitude than I should probably admit. However, one of the biggest gifts Little Maggie — my first biological child — has brought is something you may not expect. For most people, the miracle of childbirth itself or the relief that Mom and baby are safe are the…

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Dare to Be Untraditional, In a Traditional World

You are not crazy, bitter or angry. This is the hardest time of the year for all of us who have lost a loved one either through death or divorce. We want to press fast forward and skip the holiday season all together. But unfortunately this is not possible. So I decided to write you this letter and help you shake things up a little. When there is happiness all around us and deep sadness inside of…

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The 10 Lessons Oprah Taught Me

I just spent 2 days at Oprah’s Life You Want Tour, watching, observing and listening to the woman who has spent at least 3 decades inspiring the world. During these two days Oprah helped 10,000 people shift their awareness and consciousness in ways I had not imagined. I wanted to share these shifts with you in hopes that you can take each lesson and use it in your life, especially in the darkest…

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Starting From Scratch

We hold on to what we have built and have created with average success and average joy, fearing that if we let it go we would not be able to get back to that average. So we avoid starting from scratch at all costs. Even if where we are today is not a good place to be, we stay there. For a lot of us, it is easier to stay in something we don’t like than having to begin again. So today I want to…

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I Felt The Rain For The First Time

10 months ago I was in the emergency room for back pain and a bloated abdomen. After a routine CT and blood work I received the news. “You have cancer.” “What! How can this be? I do everything right. I eat clean. I exercise. I meditate. Why me?” As the doctor left and the nurse entered, keeping her distance from me, repeating “I am so sorry, I am so sorry.” I could feel her disbelief. My first…

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Get a New Toothpaste!

It took me at least two years of frustration and pain to understand the magic of solo adventuring. When you have been married to someone for years, and you are used to having someone by your side every day, when all of a sudden that person goes, you go blind and lost. You lose everything but your name. You see fear in everything. You even get lost while driving around in your neighborhood.…

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The Lemonade Maker

I wish I never listened to people always saying the most negative things about aging. How everyone wished they were younger. How terrible it is to turn 40, 50, 60, 70, 80. And maybe I still have to get to the number 50, but when I got to 40 I didn’t expect that having to work harder at my self, my body, my health and my emotional well-being would be a blessing in disguise. Maybe my resilience…

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