“The intention should not be to go and look for love after loss, but to seek to bring yourself back to life.”

– Christina Rasmussen

The quiet Sob.

I have a confession to make. There were times that I wanted to give up. There were times that I did not believe that I could pull it off. I cried. You know that quiet sob.... you keep to yourself? In the middle of the night while everyone else is asleep. You know the tears that are hot as they travel down your cheeks. That feeling in your heart that travels deep into your soul. The moment when…

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The Perfection of an imperfect day

Sometimes it is really hard to hold on to life when all you want to do is let it go. You want to wait until things look a little better, a little easier before you start to fully live again. Unfortunately there is a good chance that, the perfect day just never comes. The perfect day when you can do all the things you want to do in your life. I am here to tell you that the perfect day to begin…

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The Dirt Road.

I am a vulnerable warrior. I go for the biggest battles when I am the weakest. I open up when I break down. I discover when I am lost. What a contradiction I thought. Could this be the truth of our human kind? Could it be that the only way we can step into our light is through the door of fear? There is no safety in living fully. There is no comfort in going for what we deserve. It is a dirt…

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BRAVE.

Do you know how brave you are? I know we have never met but I bet that you have been brave many times in your life. So many that they would not fit on this one letter. Your brave moments would fill a whole book. You would have to write for hours, days, weeks and you would still not be done writing about your bravery. You see my brave warrior there have been so many brave instances in your life,…

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Click. Smile. Start OVER

Why is it that our worthiness vanishes after a loss. It almost feels like the moment we lose someone we also lose our sense of self.  We lose our value.  We become smaller.  We forget who we are.  We become less beautiful.  Less intelligent. Less knowing. Less worthy. Less special.  And that is when the real loss begins.  The loss of ourselves. But how is that possible? How is it that when we…

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Imagine…

Imagine you could walk away from yourself and stand far away observing your every move? Almost like you could see yourself as someone else. Your life is not yours.                 Your sorrow belongs to the person you are observing. Your sadness is not part of who you are. Because of this self-created distance you know exactly what you need to do to feel…

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Your own Aurora

A moment in time changed everything in the lives of the families of the victims of the Aurora shooting. The world cried for them. I cried for them too. When youth gets hit, grief is so large and imminent. When innocence is the target the world puts its arms around to protect. Fire, guns, smoke, fear and pain. Outrage. Our hearts wanted to leap out of our bodies and save them all. Humanity rose to…

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The invisible broken heart!

Your beautiful heart has suffered for so long. It has been broken into so many pieces over and over again. You have been betrayed, forgotten, ignored and even pushed to the side.  Life has definitely beaten up this amazing heart that lives inside of you. Unfortunately, most of us believe that the hurt is invisible and lives secretly within us. That is a myth.  Sorrow is a real and visible thing.…

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Saving Myself, One Small Step at a Time

by Pratt Bennet, Life Coach When did it start, my slow-but-seemingly-unstoppable decline? Was it when the love went out of my 20-year marriage? When we separated? Divorced? When the job I had loved for 19 years started turning into a micro-managed corporate nightmare? When my loving father’s decades of poor health and loneliness led to a fall, then open-heart surgery, several operations and…

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Guest blog: Learning to look within

  We are all born with instincts that help us navigate through right and wrong. We are taught from a very young age what is okay and what is not. We live, learn, and we make mistakes. This is all human nature. But, as we get older, we begin to learn that what we are searching for is actually within us. When life throws us a curveball, and we are forced to deal with a bad situation, we are…

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