Pulling back the curtain…

As you may know, prior to 'personally' being acquainted with grief, I used to be a grief therapist. I did my Masters Thesis on 'The stages of Grief' at one of England’s Ivy League schools. I call that, the time where I got to meet grief superficially. It was just a meet and greet, you can even say I was courting grief. At the time I thought I knew grief really well. I studied it, I passed the…

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I Believe in your voice

The day I realized that I had to rely on my own thoughts and believe them as true, I was freed. That is when I started to believe that my ideas are not that bad and the world around me did not know better than I did. That is when my true journey of grief started to come to life. It was the journey towards my freedom. Freedom from pain. Freedom from guilt. Freedom for what others thought I am to…

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You gave up the dream because of your loss

I want you think about a dream you once had. Something that you used to think about a lot and you haven't thought about in a while because you felt that life was much harder than you had expected. And you gave up the dream, in order to survive. You gave up the dream in order to grieve. Can you tell me what that dream was? Can you start talking to your dream and instead of telling it why it has…

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Grief could not live without me!

When grief walked in to my life. I couldn’t see there was a cloud hanging over me every day and every night. I had no one to tell me anything else but to “give it time”, and that is all I was asked to do. And I sat and waited…but nothing changed! My pain stayed right next to me. It got up when I got up. It went to be bed when I went to bed. I tried running away and it chased me. I tried to speak…

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Dance with grief

As my 9 year old daughter was looking at the cover of my upcoming book 'Dance with Grief' she leaned over and whispered: 'Mommy what does it mean to dance with grief...how can you dance when you are crying?' Instead of just giving her the answer I asked her: ‘Do you remember the days after daddy died and when we went to the beach and had fun with the waves?’ She said: 'Yes I remember we were…

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The truth will set them free.

Somewhere in the world today a little boy is crying. He has just been told by his mom that his dad is forever gone. His hands are on his cheeks, his eyes welling up with tears and his heart is beating so loudly that if you were seating next to him, you could hear it. The heartbeat is so fast that you wished you could jump right in his chest and calm it down.  You want to take the pain away from…

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Your last day on this earth.

Blog post by Christina Rasmussen It’s hard to think about our own last day. You probably think I have some guts to bring this up to this group of people, who lost so much. But ever since my life turned upside down, there is one question I ask myself every day: ‘What do I need to do today to make my life count?’ I refuse to look back and have regrets. Regrets that I didn't spend enough time with…

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Christina’s story of loss and rebirth..

by Christina Rasmussen “Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.” —Marcel Proust When my terminally ill, 35-year-old beloved husband lay dying on a small hospital bed, with two oxygen masks over his mouth, I knew the kind of terror that was coming next. I knew that grief was about to overtake me. I felt that heavy dread, but, at the same time, as…

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The Birth of Second Firsts

by Christina Rasmussen The name Second Firsts was born at 2:00am in December 2008 while sitting at my desk trying to figure out what I needed to do with my life. Still grieving very strongly, but also having passion for my life's purpose, I knew then that my life was a gift and i was about to offer it to the world. Second Firsts was not a reality yet, but a thought was planted. It was a mere…

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