In the last 4 weeks I have travelled to many cities.

Loved many people.

Heard many stories.

Hugged many souls.

But I have discovered that we seek safety and routine before we seek life.

We seek numbness before we seek vibrancy and excitement.

We seek dullness before we seek adventure.

When we hurt so much we want to end that pain.

And we don’t want to end it with LIFE.

But with comfort.

Why is that?

Because life requires work.

Life requires action.

We seek reassurance more than we seek life.

And in LIFE there is no reassurance.


No guarantees.

Creating the life we want does not allow for lingering…waiting and just being surrounded by safety.

Once we plug back in to life with a new job, a new relationship a new adventure the responsibilities mount up.

Numbness is not an option.

Safety is not guaranteed.

I understand now why it is easier to stay in the place between two lives.

We have less chance for pain in there.

It might not be a bed of roses but it is better than getting our heart broken to pieces again.

Shame on us. Shame. Shame. Shame.

Wasting our life away like that.

Don’t you dare tell me you can’t make your dreams come true because of your loss.

Because I would tell you….

You can’t make your dreams come true because you don’t want the responsibility of the life those dreams will bring to you.

I am going to ask you to choose to crawl out of numbness.

To crawl out of safety.

And to seek the hill to the life of your dreams where you don’t get to rest so much.

Because your dreams keep you climbing.

And as Nelson Mandela would say if he was here today:

After climbing a great hill,

 one only finds that there are many more hills to climb.

I have taken a moment here to rest,

to steal a view of the glorious vista that surrounds me,

to look back on the distance I have come.

But I can rest only for a moment,

for with freedom comes responsibilities,

and I dare not linger,

for my long walk is not yet ended.

Choose life. You are not here to sleep.

You are here to be awake.

Especially after a broken heart.

With hills to climb,


PS. If you have not watched my raw and unedited interview for The Good Life Project you can watch it right here

And our little book is still climbing the biggest hills and changing thousands of lives. I am in awe of the hearts that it has opened wide. And the people that opened their waiting room door and got out for the first time in years.

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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  • Teri says:

    What a beautiful post and reminder to embrace life, and to let go of the “safety nets” that we so easily let surround us. Thank you, Christina!

  • Tracey says:

    Wow this sure hit home! I’ve been in bed AGAIN for a few months now! Feeling like thstS the only place I can’t get hurt again!

  • Patricia says:

    Christina, I just heard bout you and can not thank you enough… I want to start my masters in counseling and you are just a light and an example… My husband left home . I have two kids to look after … Not my comfort zone at all (specially since I have been dedicated to my home for 7years) BUT as much as I fought for this marriage not to be over… It was over prob since before it started… I am in peace and ready to LIVE!!! Btw my motto has been , by the longest time, Live, Live, Laugh…

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