I believe I was born for the first time 3 years ago after sleeping for 38 years.

Living life as I was told to live it.

Going to school.

Learning to read and write.

Be polite. Kind. Loving. Marry. Have kids.

And then everything changed. I lost everything.

And nobody told me I could lose it so early on. It hurt a lot because I had nothing else to rely on.

No copying skills.

No inner strength.

No real value of life.

I had to die so I could be reborn.

I had to close my eyes so I could open them again.

I had to stop hearing so I could listen in to life’s real heartbeat.

And I heard everything for the first time.


Hearing the sound of life.

The tears.

The Laughter.

The pain.

The happiness.

It was as if I saw everything for the first time.

And I got it. I got it.

When we are born we are given a body.

That does not mean we are also given a life.

The life part comes much later.

Mostly later.

So if you have a body it does not mean you have a life, and it does not mean you are living.

Some of us were born but were never alive.

We have been told that we live fully when we are young and when our bodies are old we get to stop living.

Your body’s age does not mean anything.

I am 3 years old. I do look like 41.

So if you are using your age as an excuse not to be born then this letter is for you.

I don’t want to hear about how old you are any more and why you can’t be awakened.

Why you can’t live fully.

How old do you have to be to watch the sunset?

How old do you have to be to go for a walk on the beach?

How old do you have to be to paint a painting.

How old do you have to be to go bare foot for the day?

I hope you get this just I got it 3 years ago.

How old are you?

With youth,


PS. The best gift to give someone during the holidays: www.secondfirsts.com/book they will thank you forever.

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Christina Rasmussen is an author, speaker and social entrepreneur who believes that grief is an evolutionary experience required for launching a life of adventure and creative accomplishment.

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  • Monisha says:


    I resonated with this so much.

    Today, I am 9 months and 13 days old.


  • Staanley says:

    This is beautiful. I am 60 but will be born again very soon. I can feel it!

  • Amber Fleming says:

    I am so thankful someone sent me to your interview. I lost my 43 year old husband 5 months ago and I was starting to feel like no one gets me, it’s because they really don’t, I was born 5 months and 5 days ago. I am a new “Me”. Just ordered your book for myself for Christmas, looking forward to it arriving.

  • karen says:

    I love your book…and i do believe that you have power to make your life what you want it to be….some of us just waited too long…i did all the things i thought you were told to do…married,stay at home mom…forgot sort of that i am an artist who loves to create but never went to school for a degree …so i pushed it all aside knowing maybe someday….never happened….now at 60 i work at a job just to live …thats all…i am grateful for all of my blessngs God has given me…so i tell my kids do something you love ….you are young and the world is yours…dont wait till its too late and the only thing you look forward to is the end….peace and love, karen

  • Jane says:

    I really needed this. I am not sure if I can absorb. I am older (married 46+ years) and certainly am not going through what you younger widows are. You all do have so much future ahead of and you have so much potential to give, grow and love; not easily, but it out there for you. But I do love the sunsets, walking on the beach, hiking in the woods and mountains. Thanks for the reminder and including us.

  • Janey says:

    I am about 4 yrs old! I choose happiness has been a mantra of mine for about 2 yrs now! To keep me present, to keep me breathing and keep me strong! I grabbed at life and held on! I wanted to keep my head above water and I wanted to be part of the living. I knew sooner or later I would expect that of myself…so I sought out the sooner! I wanted the get better quick method, but life wanted me to feel and to grow. I didn’t just want to survive…I wanted to live! I took my own path down the trail of life after loss and sometimes it probably resembled nails on a chalkboard, but I was proud of my baby steps and I have come so far! I expect amazing!! I believe life is good and trustworthy! I am embracing the unfolding part. Love all your posts Christina!!

  • Vicky Mckenzie says:

    I just turned 59 last month. I was reborn about 6 months ago when I had to reach down deep inside and bring things to life that had been buried for over 50 years on top of loosing my husband 18 months ago. Thank you Christina fo helping me figure things out slowly. I had not excepted what happened way back until I started your Second Firsts… I would hug you if I were there and most likely she’d tears, tears of joy, so I’ll just send you a hug!!

  • Connie says:

    I am 5 and 1/2 months old ?

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